So 2018 could easily be summarised for with the very eloquent image of being kicked repeatedly in the acorns.
It really wasn’t fun but it did teach me a lot.
Now, while the original post I had in mind was an epic memoir-esque piece, I was talked out of it, though I still have some of it lying around on my a private post – mainly to create a better post for you.
You see, starting 2018, I was on a financial back foot, and really haven’t recovered from it.
I’ve come close with recovery but I haven’t fully recovered.
Through it all, however, I did find 5 BIG lessons and I’m going to share them with you…
1. I Found My Purpose. (Psst… Find Yours Too)
Over the course of the year I went through a series of thoughts and processes of who I was and why I was here but in reality, it all came down to a single 4-day event with my friend and client, Gregory Baker.
In that time I found that I was bought here to inspire everyone on the planet (most importantly myself) to feel embraced, happy, wanted, loved, and empowered.
It sounds corny as all hell but it sure as shit works for me. And I hope you feel embraced by this post… Or at least empowered to not make my mistakes.
This finding of purpose started to open the doors for me to become more vulnerable and open to actually talking about my feelings which prior to March 2018, I had the range of a spoon.
With my purpose in mind, I’ve been building up my muscles to allow that to happen and it hasn’t always gone the way I wanted.
In fact, that leads me to lesson number 2…
n’t Take On More Than You Can Handle & Only Half Of What You Believe You Can…
So with full desperation running through my mind, I spent most of 2018 trying to take on more and more work to get paid as it seemed like everyone was broke.
Only problem was I couldn’t actually keep up and hit burn out relatively quickly.
Thankfully, I managed to actually catch myself and start working out of it.
So that’s the lesson, take on half of what you believe, and don’t take on more than you think you can handle.
Complete your tasks on time and hand them in. Trust me, it makes life easier than goofing off (yes I goofed off too).
3. Write, God-damn it, Write!
Sounds dumb but I spent a lot of 2018 not writing.
I actually went through a phase where I didn’t think I could write any more. Which is annoying as shit btw.
So here’s the big take away, the more I wrote, the more comfortable I got and the more money I made.
The conflict here is that I spent so much of last year trying not to write under weird guises.
So when it comes down to writing, the more copy you write (and blog posts), you actually get better at doing it.
Yes, it can be a pain in the ass as you end up wondering what to write about (and I’m going to share that with you soon… promise)!
4. Get Comfortable Getting Help
I’m primarily a lone wolf and love to work alone, which is weird as I’m an extrovert but I don’t like working with other people.
Anyway, this was a big lesson for me as I set aside my pride and reached out for help from my subscribers, FB groups and friends/followers, and met some amazing people along the way.
This included speaking to the head copy chief of Agora Financial, Joe Schriefer – super cool dude and a brother, getting help from the legend, Jon Benson, and being present with some amazing people.
Asking for help got me mostly out of a debt that I owed.
It also allowed me to help more people than ever before.
The best part was asking for help got me the best out of my Jiu-Jitsu training partners as well!
5. Find Something Else To Relax
As a workaholic, I used to stay up until 2 or 3 am just to finish writing a funnel package because I was on a roll.
The problem was I was killing my adrenal glands and my creativity.
I didn’t have much outside of Jiu Jitsu to calm myself down or let go.
My anxiety was at an all time high and I had no clue what to do.
So I started taking time off during the 3 months I couldn’t do BJJ, and took up artwork and stand up comedy (hoping to actually perform some of the sets this year).
Anyway, the other bonus thing I learned the hard way… Make sure you keep your intentions to yourself as sometimes they will get beat up by those with the kindest intentions. (Other times they’re assholes).
Hope you’ve enjoyed this post.
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